There is a question that I always ask my clients in our first meeting, it goes like this; "If we were meeting 3 years from now and you were looking back on this meeting, WHAT is it that has to happen for you to feel successful in where you are at?"
It is a very profound and deeply though provoking question for some and others have immediate, tip-of-the-tongue answers. But everyone has answers. We all want something better for our futures, don't we? Or at least different, or maybe simpler, or are you wanting to spice things up more? Isn't that why New Years Eve resolutions are so popular (or dreaded) for the general population every year? How many of of these "resolutions" quickly turn into mere "intentions" without any real weight or momentum behind them, leaving any real improvement in our lives in the dust? Why, why does this happen?
Hmmmm.... time to think, more tomorrow.... must have chocolate!
In a minute, Debbie Vineyard’s world changed. As she held her 6-week-old baby and her 3-year-old son scurried about, Vineyard learned she had cancer.
A woman known for calling and e-mailing friends to wish them a “Happy First Day of the Month” or “Happy Monday” would begin chemotherapy the next day, Feb. 1, 1995.
Of cancer, Vineyard simply says, “I got the good one. Isn’t that funny?”
According to the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society, the survival rate for Hodgkin’s lymphoma, a blood cancer involving the body’s lymph system, is generally 90 percent or higher when the disease is detected during early stages, as it was for Vineyard.
Vineyard knew the odds were on her side, but the unknown haunted her.
“I wasn’t worried about me,” she says. “I was worried about my kids, my husband. I felt like I could beat it from the start. I knew God had a plan for me and I was going to be fine.”
Fifteen years later, Vineyard is cancer-free.
“Everyone has their own story,” she says. “I had to go through cancer to get my story.”
Her story began with a cancer diagnosis, but Vineyard was determined to make her next chapter one of new beginnings. So, Happy First was hatched.
The egg-inspired clothing line offers women’s and children’s apparel with unique messages. Four years ago, the line began with eight products. Today, Happy First offers dozens of products with vendors in 15 states and online at www.HappyFirst.com. Best sellers include “Happy Chick” and “Freshly Hatched” organic infant onesies, adult wraps and “Happy Hour” hoodies.
“(It’s) just like you are bursting out of a shell,” Vineyard says. “I like the idea of a fresh start every day.”
Friends say her enthusiasm is addictive. College friend Amy Fuller says Vineyard radiates something special.
“I think she’s exploding with the need to explore life and not waste a minute,” she says.
Lori Dale, another longtime friend, admits that she often needs “a dose of Debbie” to brighten her day.
Others appreciate her contributions as well. This year Vineyard has been nominated as the Pi Beta Phi Woman of the Year.
As her company grows, so does Vineyard’s commitment to giving back. In addition to donating a portion of the Happy First proceeds to the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society, Vineyard is also an advocate.
She says her clothing line is more than just a shirt or jacket.
“It’s an opportunity to connect and share my story and encourage people to live life to the fullest,” she says. “I tell them to be positive. Many cancers are curable. Watch the blessings that come from the challenge.”
Vineyard says she wants people to embrace the Happy First mentality, which is to simply find your passion and pursue it. Spend a minute with her and you’ll see just how she celebrates life each day.
Melanie Henry co-founded 918moms.com, a community Web site for moms who swap stories, save money and share advice. Learn more at www.918moms.com.
A woman known for calling and e-mailing friends to wish them a “Happy First Day of the Month” or “Happy Monday” would begin chemotherapy the next day, Feb. 1, 1995.
Of cancer, Vineyard simply says, “I got the good one. Isn’t that funny?”
According to the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society, the survival rate for Hodgkin’s lymphoma, a blood cancer involving the body’s lymph system, is generally 90 percent or higher when the disease is detected during early stages, as it was for Vineyard.
Vineyard knew the odds were on her side, but the unknown haunted her.
“I wasn’t worried about me,” she says. “I was worried about my kids, my husband. I felt like I could beat it from the start. I knew God had a plan for me and I was going to be fine.”
Fifteen years later, Vineyard is cancer-free.
“Everyone has their own story,” she says. “I had to go through cancer to get my story.”
Her story began with a cancer diagnosis, but Vineyard was determined to make her next chapter one of new beginnings. So, Happy First was hatched.
The egg-inspired clothing line offers women’s and children’s apparel with unique messages. Four years ago, the line began with eight products. Today, Happy First offers dozens of products with vendors in 15 states and online at www.HappyFirst.com. Best sellers include “Happy Chick” and “Freshly Hatched” organic infant onesies, adult wraps and “Happy Hour” hoodies.
“(It’s) just like you are bursting out of a shell,” Vineyard says. “I like the idea of a fresh start every day.”
Friends say her enthusiasm is addictive. College friend Amy Fuller says Vineyard radiates something special.
“I think she’s exploding with the need to explore life and not waste a minute,” she says.
Lori Dale, another longtime friend, admits that she often needs “a dose of Debbie” to brighten her day.
Others appreciate her contributions as well. This year Vineyard has been nominated as the Pi Beta Phi Woman of the Year.
As her company grows, so does Vineyard’s commitment to giving back. In addition to donating a portion of the Happy First proceeds to the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society, Vineyard is also an advocate.
She says her clothing line is more than just a shirt or jacket.
“It’s an opportunity to connect and share my story and encourage people to live life to the fullest,” she says. “I tell them to be positive. Many cancers are curable. Watch the blessings that come from the challenge.”
Vineyard says she wants people to embrace the Happy First mentality, which is to simply find your passion and pursue it. Spend a minute with her and you’ll see just how she celebrates life each day.
Melanie Henry co-founded 918moms.com, a community Web site for moms who swap stories, save money and share advice. Learn more at www.918moms.com.
This article originally appeared in the February 2010 issue of TulsaPeople Magazine.